How Sexually Attractive Are You To Women? Take This Honest Test

This test only works if you answer truthfully. Not how you wish things were. Not how you used to be five years ago. Not how you think you come across. How you actually are, right now, today.

A man in his 40s has enough life experience to know the difference between who he presents to the world and who he actually is when nobody is watching. This test is asking for the second version.

Get a pen and paper or open your notes app. Every time you answer yes, mark it down. At the end, add up your yeses. Your score tells you exactly where you stand.

There are 23 questions. They are simple, direct, and honest. Just like the results.

Before you begin, here is how your yeses will be counted at the end:

Write your score down as you go. We will come back to it at the end.

One of the most powerful things you can do for your attractiveness has nothing to do with looks, status, or age. It has everything to do with understanding what women actually respond to beneath the surface.

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Most men try to create attraction through compliments, physical moves, or charm. But for women, desire almost always starts in the mind — in conversation, in emotional connection, in feeling genuinely seen by a man who knows how to ask the right questions.

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Now. Let us get into the test.

Section One — How You Present Yourself

Question 1: Do you have proper grooming and hygiene practices?

Not just when you are going out for a special occasion. As a daily habit. Regular showers, clean teeth, moisturised skin, a cologne you wear consistently, manscaping when appropriate. The key word is practices — things you do automatically, not things you remember to do when it matters.

This is the baseline. Everything else builds on it.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 2: Do you put genuine effort into how you dress?

Not like a male model. Not expensively. But with intention. Do you wear clothes that fit properly, that suit your build, that reflect a man who has thought about how he presents himself to the world?

Women notice this immediately. Not because they are shallow but because effort in presentation signals self-respect. And self-respect is deeply attractive.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 3: Do you engage in regular physical exercise?

Not a Greek god physique. Not six days a week in the gym. Simply — are you strong enough, fit enough, and healthy enough that your body communicates vitality rather than neglect?

Exercise is not about vanity. It is about the energy and confidence that comes from a body that is being looked after. Women feel that energy before they consciously register it.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Section Two — Who You Are

Question 4: Do you have a well-defined purpose in life?

This one is big. Men who are driven by something — a career they care about, a passion they pursue seriously, a mission that gets them out of bed — carry a quality of focus and aliveness that is almost impossible to fake and extraordinarily attractive to women.

It does not have to be grand. It has to be real.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 5: Do you have a dependable source of income?

Not millions. Not a penthouse. Simply — are you financially responsible? Do you have a reliable income and a relationship with money that suggests a man in control of his life rather than one being controlled by circumstances?

Financial responsibility signals stability. Stability is deeply attractive, particularly to women who have been around long enough to know the difference.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 6: Do you have an active social life?

Men with full lives — friends, interests, commitments, a world that exists independently of any woman — are automatically more attractive than men whose social world contracts around whoever they are pursuing.

A full life signals that you are a man worth knowing. That getting time with you means something.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 7: Do you have hobbies and passions you genuinely enjoy?

The guitar. Rare coins. Running. Cooking. Writing. It does not matter what it is. What matters is that you care about something with genuine enthusiasm. Passion in any form is contagious and deeply compelling.

A man with no passions outside of work and television is a man who has stopped growing. And women can feel that too.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 8: Do you have genuine faith in yourself?

Self confidence is the single most attractive quality a man can possess. Not arrogance. Not performance. Genuine, quiet belief in his own worth and capability.

This is as attractive to women as physical beauty is to men. If you have it, you already know the effect it has. If you are still developing it, everything else on this list will help.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 9: Are you honest — consistently and without exception?

Without honesty there is no trust. Without trust there is no genuine attraction. It is that simple.

Every woman, regardless of age or experience, is looking for a man she can trust completely. Honesty is not just a moral quality. It is a deeply attractive one.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 10: Do you have clear personal boundaries?

Do you know what is acceptable and unacceptable in your life — and do you enforce those standards without apology?

Men without boundaries lose the respect of the women around them almost immediately. Not because women are cruel but because boundaries signal self-respect, and a man who does not respect himself cannot be fully respected by anyone else.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Section Three — How You Show Up

Question 11: Would the people who know you describe you as responsible?

Women want a man they can rely on. Not someone who needs managing. Not someone whose follow-through is unpredictable. A man who says what he will do and does it — consistently, without drama, without needing to be chased.

Responsibility is leadership. And leadership, at its core, is one of the most attractive qualities a man can have.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 12: Do you have a genuine sense of humour?

Not comedian-level funny. Simply — do you find joy in life? Do you make the people around you feel lighter? Do you laugh easily and make others laugh without trying too hard?

Humour signals intelligence, ease, and confidence. A man who can laugh at himself and at life is a man who is not threatened by it. That quality is irresistible.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 13: Can you keep calm under pressure?

This is one of the deepest tests of a man's character. Women pay attention to how a man responds when things go wrong — when the reservation is lost, when the argument escalates, when life throws something unexpected.

A man who stays steady under pressure is a man who can be trusted. And trust, as we have established, is the foundation of everything.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 14: Are you willing to make mistakes and push through failure?

A man who takes risks — who goes after what he wants without letting fear make the decision for him — is a man who is fully alive. And fully alive men are extraordinarily attractive.

This willingness also signals something deeper: that he believes he deserves good things enough to pursue them. That belief is magnetic.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 15: Do you genuinely believe you deserve good things in your life?

This is the deepest question on the list. Most men, if they are honest, carry a quiet doubt about their own worthiness. Social conditioning, past failures, comparison to other men — all of it chips away at a man's sense of entitlement to the good life.

The men who have shed that doubt — who pursue what they want with the quiet certainty that they deserve it — carry a confidence and a charisma that no technique can replicate.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Section Four — How You Connect

Question 16: Are you expressive and animated when you communicate?

Charismatic men are expressive men. They use their face, their voice, their body to communicate fully rather than delivering everything in a flat monotone. They are present in the conversation rather than simply occupying space in it.

You do not have to be theatrical. But if your default is reserved and unexpressive, you are leaving a significant amount of your natural attractiveness on the table.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 17: Do you smile and laugh often and naturally?

Smiling and laughing are scientifically proven to increase attractiveness. They signal warmth, openness, and joy — all of which are contagious. A man who makes a woman feel good simply by being around him is a man she wants to be around more.

This costs nothing. And yet so many men withhold it in an attempt to seem more serious or mysterious.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 18: Do you use appropriate physical touch when you interact with people?

Touch releases oxytocin — the bonding chemical that creates feelings of trust, warmth, and connection almost instantly. Men who can touch naturally and appropriately build rapport faster than those who keep every interaction at arm's length.

A brief hand on the arm. A warm handshake that lingers a moment. A touch on the shoulder. Small gestures that signal warmth and confidence without overstepping.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 19: Can you maintain good eye contact while you speak?

Most people can hold eye contact while listening. Fewer can hold it while speaking — and that difference reveals everything about a man's confidence level.

Eye contact while speaking signals that you believe what you are saying is worth hearing. It creates trust, commands attention, and can spark genuine emotional and physical tension when used with intention.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 20: Are you a genuinely good listener?

Women crave this more than almost anything else. Not a man who waits for his turn to speak. A man who actually hears her — who tracks what she says, remembers it, responds to it, and makes her feel that her inner world genuinely interests him.

A man who listens well makes a woman feel valued. And feeling valued is one of the most powerful precursors to genuine attraction.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 21: Do you have expansive, confident body language?

Back straight. Shoulders back. Head up. Do you take up space naturally rather than contracting yourself to take up less? Do you move through a room like a man who belongs there?

Body language communicates confidence before a single word is spoken. It is the first thing women read and one of the hardest things to fake convincingly. But it is also one of the most learnable.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 22: Can you lead and carry a conversation from start to finish?

Not dominate it. Lead it. There is a significant difference. Can you open an interaction, keep it moving, navigate the silences, and bring it to a natural close without relying on the other person to do the heavy lifting?

This quality — the ability to lead socially — signals confidence, intelligence, and presence. All of which are deeply attractive.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Question 23: Can you flirt — properly, naturally, and without it feeling forced?

This is the final question and arguably the most important one.

A woman can find a man attractive in every way on this list and still feel no chemistry if he cannot flirt. Flirting is what transforms attraction into spark. It is the signal that tells her this is not just a pleasant conversation — it is something more.

Proper flirting is not about lines or techniques. It is about playfulness, eye contact, timing, and the confidence to let a woman know you find her interesting without making her feel uncomfortable. It is a skill. And like all skills, it can be learned.

Yes or No — mark it down.

Add up your yeses now.

0 to 5 — The Foundation Needs Work

This is not a verdict. It is a starting point. Every man on this list who scores in the top category started somewhere. The difference between where you are and where you want to be is not talent or genetics — it is information and intention. You now have the information. The intention is yours to bring.

6 to 10 — You Have Something To Build On

The foundation is there. But there are gaps — probably several — that are costing you more than you realise. The good news is that targeted, deliberate improvement in even two or three of these areas can shift how women respond to you significantly and quickly.

11 to 15 — You Are Doing Well

You are genuinely attractive to women in a number of meaningful ways. But you are also leaving something on the table. Look back at your no answers. Each one is a specific, actionable area for growth. At this level, small improvements produce disproportionately large results.

16 to 20 — You Are The Real Deal

Most men never reach this level. You have done the work — consciously or through life experience — to develop genuine attractiveness across almost every dimension that matters. The women in your life already know this. Now you do too.

21 to 23 — Top One Percent

This is rare. If you answered honestly and still landed here, you are a man who has built himself into someone genuinely exceptional. Not perfect — but present, grounded, confident, and real in a way that most men spend their whole lives chasing without ever quite reaching.

If flirting was one of your no answers — or if you want to take your connection with women to a level that goes far beyond what most men ever experience — I want to point you toward something specific.

The Desire Playbook: 20 Sexual Questions That Turn Her On Before You Ever Touch Her.

Most men try to create desire through physical moves, compliments, or charm. But for women, desire almost always begins in the mind — in conversation, in emotional connection, in feeling genuinely seen and understood by a man who knows exactly what to ask.

This free guide gives you 20 carefully crafted questions designed to open her up emotionally and sexually — building tension, revealing her hidden desires, and creating the kind of connection that most couples never find even after years together.

It is completely free. Completely private. And it works whether you are on a first date, deepening a long term relationship, or reigniting a spark that has gone quiet.

Get your free copy here →

Keep coming back. There is always more to learn.

Love, Emma 💕